Baby Brain!!!

This article is mainly for new parents, or parents with little ones running around, but daddies should read it too...and then you can help the mommies!!!

Ok, so you've had a baby, and most mothers out there have BABY BRAIN for at least the first two years of their childs life right? So what is baby brain?? You eat, sleep and breath your baby!! You have no idea about anything that's going on in the world, all your focus is on your child, and rightly so as any good mother will tell you! But it isn't selfish or wrong to want a little time for yourself to be you instead of Mommy!! And it doesn't make you a bad mother either!

Let Dad or Gran have some bonding time with the baby, even if it's just an hour!

Take a shower, sleep, watch the news, catch up with friends online! Which by the way is a life saver when you have little ones and can't get out much!

Just for a little while, do something that has nothing to do with your child! It may sound harsh but even after just one hour of doing this, you get your baby back and you're even more prepared for anything your child throws at you! It improves your parenting because you are less stressed and frustrated! And your baby senses when you're happy and relaxed, which in turn makes them happy and relaxed!!!

So Ditch the baby brain for at least an hour a day, you'll be a better parent for it I promise!

Keep smiling x

Monsters & Monkeys...Exactly what we need!!

My next shout out goes to Sarah Bass. Founder of Monsters and Monkeys. What's that I hear you ask?? Well before I tell you, picture this...You're pregnant, or have recently given birth, or have a few little ones in your family and you're finding it hard to go out and socialise with other parents & families. You don't know where to go. You don't have the time or the energy to organize trips. Well Sarah Bass has come up with the perfect solution for you! MonstersandMonkeys.com Let them put you intouch with like minded parents to be, new parents and families, whatever the childs age, all the hard work is done for you! Day trips, picnics and other events are arranged so that you can meet with the people you talk to online! Genius right?!

About The Founder.....

Former accountant, Sarah, came up with the idea when she herself as a new mum found it difficult to meet new people, she realised that other mums, mums to be and dads where in exactly the same boat and found it just as difficult as she did! And from this Monsters and monkeys was born. Sarah now organizes mass events and get togethers on a weekly basis! Currently Monsters and monkeys is in beta testing mode, which means that a database is being created from free memberships, so you mums out there really need to check it out!Membership fees will apply once the Beta testing mode has ended, but very fairly priced!

To start with membership is based in the UK, Mainly London but Sarah is hoping to expand globally once things take off!

Sarah, as a young mum myself I think you are a genius and have no doubt that Monsters & Monkeys will be a huge huge success!

I'm posting a link to MonstersandMonkeys.com under favorite sites. Go find out how they can help you!

Keep smiling

Why do women love bad men?!... PT2.

Well ladies, We've already admitted to having a very soft spot for bad boys!! And everytime, without fail, we end up trying to change them in to the "settle down" type of man.

I'm not talking about the asses in todays society that think it's ok to hit women, and other unspeakable acts! I'm talking about the guys who are as hot as hell, but refuse to settle, who cheat, or openly move from woman to woman. Why do they act like this in the first place I hear you asking me??? Well I have no proof and I'm no shrink but I have my own ideas.

Maybe they act this way because, at one point in their lives they were actually kind of decent? They've just been hurt and refuse to let anyone hurt them again, so they say they don't believe in love and are quite happy going from woman to woman for the rest of their lives. Truth.......nine times out ten, they're lying.
And if they're not lying then maybe they've never been inlove, and it will just hit them like a ton of bricks when they finally do! Or finally, maybe it's just the way they truly are and won't ever change!

And I finish with a little message for all those bad boys out there.

Imagine being in your seventies, in a nursing home, still trying to get laid because you're lonely??? NOT A TURN ON!!!

Keep Smiling.x

Busy Busy Busy!

Just another quick update on what I'm up to!
I'm about to start a very interesting Blog on a fellow tweeter!!! I'm saying nothing else except it's going to be the first of many articles about this person! All will be revealed in due course! Also working on part 2 of "Why do women love bad men?! Am thinking of making this a regular feature as I'm having alot of responses from it....Would love to now what you think!
And finally another article that is a working progress....BABY BRAIN. Intrigued??? I'm saying nothing LOL.
Finally would just like to say, times are hard, for everyone at the moment, me included. So if you like my writing and you know someone who could put a good freelance writer like me to work, then please forward my contact details, I work hard and need whatever work I can get!!! It would be much appreciated!!!
Keep smiling!

Why do women love a bad man?! PT 1.

Oh Ladies, why oh why oh why do we do it to ourselves!?! I don't care what your race, age, marital status or religion. At some point, wether you admit it or not we have all fallen for at least one "bad boy".

You know the type of man, the one who will never settle down, who is actually a really nice guy but only to his friends, never to the women in his life! The guys who make it plainly obvious that they are only interested in one thing, or the guys who tell you they love you and then go park their car in someone elses garage!

We know we shouldn't go near these guys, we know it will end in tears...usually ours! BUT WE STILL DO IT!!

Is it because we feel we can change them? Or because we need adventure and attention..no matter what kind! Or is it because by being with these kind of men, it in turn makes us feel slightly bad and sexy? Be honest with yourself now girls. I'll be honest, the thought of being a bad guys girl is a turn on, of course it is! "Oh he's mean, he does all these bad things but it's me he wants". Secretly that's how we think. And usually we end up falling for them big time and being heart broken! But why? We knew what they were like in the beginning. Women LOVE the idea of being with a bad man, even the married, happily married women, we all want or have wanted this at some point. Seriously are we insane! Nope, not insane it's just the pure adrenaline rush we get from it! It makes us feel attractive, rebelious, dangerous, sexy and all the things we women have trouble feeling on a normal day to day basis. But you're with a guy who's got a reputation, and you're carrying a dirty little secret around that makes you feel all these things! TURN ON!!!

There's nothing wrong with this, in most cases it can be good for you...as long as you don't fall for them. You know they have no intention of being with you long term, they just want some fun, so don't dive in with both feet, just dip your toe and test the water!

In part 2...Why are men BAD?!? "Why do they get off on going with woman after woman? Never having an emotional connection? Well I have my own ideas on that too!!

Keep Smiling.

My next SHOUT OUT!!!

The next person I'm going to be shouting about is a lady who has come up with the most genius idea! She has a new up and running website and if my hunches are right it will be a huge success! But that's all I'm telling you for now. I promise you it's good stuff, when I post the article I will also post a link to the website so you can check it out for yourself!

Keep smiling.

To my friend....

Just so my readers aren't confused this post is for a friend who's going through a rough time right now. Remember, friends are your extended family, take care of them!

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.

You know who you are, Whenever you need me pick up the phone or show up at my door, I'll always be here if you need me, no matter where I am or what I'm doing. I'll console you, be a bad influence on you, make you laugh, get you drunk, and even make an idiot of my self and send you silly pictures! Or simply sit and moan with you!
I will always be your friend and I'll always have your back!!! ~Gellar Girl~

Change of plan!!!

There has been a change of plan for my blog!! I was supposed to be writing an article on music and how recording has changed over the years....I still intend on doing that but something came to my attention last night that really interested me! Social networking! Anyone who knows me via MSN messenger, twitter, Facebook will know I am online most of the time while I'm working! And more and more people are changing why they use the internet. I was talking with a friend last night and he was having problems on twitter with a certain person who would not leave him alone, she actually began to get quite nasty, so he had to report her to twitter! It really made me think.

Why on earth do people think that just because you are onine, wanting to chat and make new friends that they have the right to pester you if you don't want to talk to them?! A few years ago the internet was just for buisness, no one had heard of SOCIAL NETWORKING. It was all about building web sites and finding new customers, and now the money that's to be made is in social networks!

Now a days all kinds of people use the internet. House wives, single parents, children, grannies and grandads. The list is endless, I've been doing some research today and everyone I spoke to was using the internet because the were bored, or were not getting enough attention at home, or even wanted to find someone to have an affair with. One woman I spoke to purely goes online for the soul purpose of meeting men she can flirt with and have an internet relationship with. There's nothing wrong with doing this, I chat to all kinds of people, I met my sons father online, and I've made some pretty good friends too, but my point is, can it go too far?????

I had an experience with someone recently,he was never interested in having a real conversation, he just used to send me dirty private messages, even after I'd told him I wasn't interested! So the end result was, he got blocked! The scariest thing is, when you are a regular user of the internet, there's no way to protect yourself from coming across these people, even if you haven't yet, you will! So be careful!!
everyone flirts and has conversations that maybe they shouldn't sometimes, but there are people who will take it too far!
Makes me wonder what the next ten years of interneting will bring?
Keep smiling.

My newest article.

Hi guys, I told you I was writing a dream article for soul Reader, well it has now been posted so go and check it out! http://bit.ly/zPSJf. I'm very greatful to Kathy for letting me write for her blog and for other more, personal stuff.. She really is an amazing lady! Go see her blog!

Keep smiling.

Love won't break me.

I Give you all the attention you could ever need, and yet you turn me away. I tell you every word I know you want to hear, and yet you close your ears. I give you honesty,sympathy and kindness and your eyes look at me as if I were the devil.

And so I ask.. If I were to turn away my attention and remove my outstretched hand, would you then turn to me?

If I took back my heart and kept it for myself, would it make you want it?

If I lied and became uncaring and unkind, would you then want me?

Of course you would, because you always want what you can't have!

I am me, I won't change, for anyone, not even you! No matter how much I long for you.

My heart is strong,but my character is stronger.

~Gellar Girl~

FREEDOM!

What I'm up to......

Well, I'm very busy at the moment, I'm being a guest writer on Soul reader's blog and I'm doing a peice about Dreams/dream interpretation, so keep checking in on her blog for that! You will find it at http://soulreaderblog.blogspot.com/. Coming soon.
I'm also doing an article for my own blog, about how the world wide web has completely changed MUSIC! How it's so easy to get things done these days! And also how great the internet is for artists..and all they the things they can do that they just never thought possible before! And how it majorly affects record sales!!! Check back soon.
Keep smiling!

Just Can't get enough.

Music! Of late it has been my life! I play it from morning till night, when I'm working anyway! There's a quote that says~Music is what feelings sound like. How true is that! No matter what your mood, you can find a song to suit it, whatever kind of music you're in to! I love songs that have a real strong beat and songs that tell you a story. You always know when you're listening to a classic for the first time because just for those few minuites that you're listening, you get sucked in to the song and it carries you along with it...and when it's finished, you just can't get it out of your head!! Truthfully, there aren't that many songs out there that do that now, songs seem to be more about, what effects they can put on the songs to make them sound better and "improving" the artists voice with backing tracks and so on. I think that's why I prefer alot of the older music. It's got a completely diferent vibe to it. Don't get a girl wrong, there are some amazingly talented artist around today that are uncomparable to anyone, I just think music was about something completely diferent a few years ago, it was about making music, now it seems to be all about getting famous! Okay Okay rant over...until next time HAHA! Keep Smiling.

Quotes on women and beauty.

Sex and beauty are inseparable, like life and consciousness. And the intelligence which goes with sex and beauty, and arises out of sex and beauty, is intuition.~D.H Lawrence



The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched ... but are felt in the heart.~Helen Keller



I'm tired of all this nonsense about beauty being only skin-deep. That's deep enough. What do you want, an adorable pancreas?~Jean Kerr



Do you love me because I'm beautiful,or am I am beautiful because you love me?~Oscar Hammerstein II



Sex appeal is fifty percent what you've got and fifty percent what people think you've got.~Sophia Loren



It matters more what's in a woman's face than what's on it.~Claudette Colbert



God made man stronger but not necessarily more intelligent. He gave women intuition and femininity. And, used properly, that combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I've ever met~Farrah Fawcett



Despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, I have not been able to answer... the great question that has never been answered: what does a woman want?~Sigmund Freud



I would rather trust a woman's instinct than a man's reason.~Stanley Baldwin

Soul Reader

Okay, time for me to SHOUT about somebody else I also recently met online. A lady called Kathy Crabbe. She is a psychic, healer, Soul Reader. And she does it all, over the internet! When I first began talking with Kathy I was really down and didn't know how to pick myself up, I had a reading from Kathy, admittedly I was very very sceptical, mainly because I didn't understand it, I'd never heard anything like that being done before. Once I recieved my reading via email I read it, didn't understand it, read it again, and again. Suddenly the light bulb above my head went ping! I understood it! The things Kathy had said in my reading shocked me, the things she told me about how I was feeling, what was happening in my life, she could never have known, I hadn't told her anything about myself at that point! Kathy also advised me on what I could do to make myself feel better, drinking nettle tea, working with certain stones and images, and I really do feel better!!!!! If you're a huge sceptic like I was please get a reading from Kathy. Her prices are amazingly fair and she is the kindest, most honest person I've ever met online! And her accuracy will cure you of being sceptical! Kathy saved me, once from depression and once from thinking I was insane! Kathy does a variety of readings at different prices, and you can find out all about her on her website.http://www.kathycrabbe.com/. Check it out. Go see Kathy! She also is a very talented artist, and uses alot of her own art for her readings! How talented is that!

Drew Seeley...The next big thing?

So, I promised I would be talking about my other passion besides writing...MUSIC! The guy you see in the picture is Mr Drew Seeley! I could tell you what many other websites would tell you, where he's from. how old he is, how he got started etc etc, but I'm not going to. There's something more important to tell you about this guy, besides him being easy on the eye! It's his voice! He has the most beautiful voice and he can belt out a tune or two!! As well as being a musician, he's also an actor and often combines the two. He's not as well known here in the UK as he is in America, but I'm sure that will all change. I've put a link up for his official website, where you can find out all about him! He writes all of his own songs, and I haven't heard a bad one yet!!! BUT don't take my word for it, go find out for yourself!!! He did an awesome film with Selena Gomez called Another Cinderella story for which he wrote& co wrote alot of the songs in it. New Classic was a huge hit on radio disney!! Check it out on Itunes. The most impressive thing for me other than his talent, of course, his is kindness and the love that he has for his fans, it sticks out a mile! He makes such an effort to connect with his fans as much as he can! I even got a reply! After I annoyed the poor guy to death! HAHA! Sorry Drew! xx He has a say now number so fans can call and leave messages and he actually calls back! Yes you heard me, he calls back!! He also has a twitter account where he keeps everyone up to date with what he's up to, so go follow him!! He's going to be in New York all this summer on broadway, playing prince Eric in The Little Mermaid! So if you're nearby go see it!! Geez I should get paid for all this advertising!!! HEHEHE!! So look Drew up, I promise once you hear his voice you'll be hooked! Go check him out!!

Check in next week to see who I'll be picking on next!! :)

Those truly linked don't need correspondence. When they meet again after many years apart, Their friendship is as true as ever.~Deng Ming Dao.

That quote comes to mind whenever I think of the person you see in this picture...Tracy.

I have known Tracy since we were 11yrs old, and from more or less the first day of meeting we have been best friends. We have gone through alot together and also apart, the reason for the quote?? Because we lost touch for quite a long time and from the day we met again completely by coincidence our friendship continued like we'd never been apart! Tracy has seen me through some of the hardest times of my life! She is truly a wondeful person.

Tracy you are my rock and I love you! And C too xx

On truth.

They who would give up an essential liberty for temporary security, deserve neither liberty or security~Benjamin Franklin.

The ideals which have lighted me on my way and time after time given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Truth, Goodness, and Beauty. . . . The ordinary objects of human endeavour -- property, outward success, luxury -- have always seemed to me contemptible.~Albert Einstein.

Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli.

Believe nothing just because a so-called wise person said it. Believe nothing just because a belief is generally held. Believe nothing just because it is said in ancient books. Believe nothing just because it is said to be of divine origin. Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. [paraphrased] ~Buddah.

I hold it true, whate'er befall;I feel it, when I sorrow most;'Tis better to have loved and lostThan never to have loved at all. ~Tennyson.

The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. ~Allan.K. Chalmers

Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle.~Amy Bloom

Tell me who admires and loves you,And I will tell you who you are.~Charles Augustin Sainte Beuve.

Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.~Elie Wiesel

Infantile love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved."Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love."Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."Mature love says: "I need you because I love you."~Erich Fromm.

Quotes on life.

And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.~Abraham Lincoln.

Love life and it will love you back. Love people and they will love you back. ~Arthur rubinstein.

Life's changes are not supposed to paralise you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.~ Bernice johnson reagen.

Three passions have governed my life:The longings for love, the search for knowledge,And unbearable pity for the suffering of [humankind].
Love brings ecstasy and relieves loneliness.In the union of love I have seenIn a mystic miniature the prefiguring visionOf the heavens that saints and poets have imagined.
With equal passion I have sought knowledge.I have wished to understand the hearts of [people].I have wished to know why the stars shine.
Love and knowledge led upwards to the heavens,But always pity brought me back to earth;Cries of pain reverberated in my heartOf children in famine, of victims torturedAnd of old people left helpless.I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot,And I too suffer.
This has been my life; I found it worth living.
~Bertrand Russell